Over the past few weeks, I’ve been exploring what it really means to say: “I have enough.”
My desire to do so came from a sense of fear and uncertainty I’ve been experiencing recently about the wider world… and a growing need to take more responsibility for how I was responding to it.
I wondered if the energy I was spending chasing what doesn’t really matter — whether because of FOMO, the hooks of social media, or just the constant hum of “more” — could be better directed toward appreciating what I already have.
And not even what I want someday…
Or what I’m working for in the near future…
What about just, now?
Would that feel different?
Would it feel better?
So, in tiny moments each day, I started noticing:
Enough time — to get the kitchen cleaned up after dinner.
Enough progress — on a new project I’m building in my business.
Enough success — in the beautiful comments and quiet messages from people connecting with my “Enough” stories online.
Enough happiness — sharing in my daughter’s adventures with my husband.
Enough… everything.
I wasn’t doing it as a performance.
It wasn’t even really a test.
It was a real-life experiment in doing less, striving less — and seeing what happens when I stop chasing more.
(Thank you for the inspiration, Joseph Heller. You can read [here] how this all got started!)
At the end of this experiment, what surprised me most wasn’t that I felt calmer or more content. (Although I absolutely did.)
It wasn’t the unexpected connection with others sharing what their version of “enough” looked like. (Also true — and such a delight!)
It was this little voice in my head that crept in quietly as I went about my days:
Okay, that was nice… but what’s going to happen when I have to get back to real life?
Real life?
What even is that?
Maybe my worry was …
- The quiet itch to check what’s happening in the world — just in case I’m missing something
- The pressure to justify my worth by being busy or productive all day
- The whisper that said: “You were lucky to have a few long weekends to slow down… but next week? You’d better get back to it.”
Even after choosing to see the “enoughness” in my life… I could feel the old story trying to sneak back in.
And that’s when I realised – even though I believe I have enough, I haven’t fully answered the deeper question:
What would change if I knew how to live like I mattered — every day?
What if I got so practiced at checking in with myself… that I did that before checking the news or social media?
What if I finally derailed that automatic reaction I have to justify what brings me joy… even if it doesn’t make sense to anyone else?
What if I stopped handing over the decision-making power around how I use my time, energy, and gifts… to everyone but me?
That question — how to live like I matter — is the one I’ve been sitting with for a few years now. It’s now the question guiding my next experiment, and it’s the one I’d love to invite you into.
I want you here with me because I think each of us has our own inner compass — made up of values, beliefs, dreams, and deep longings — that point us toward what really matters to us, individually.
And I doubt very much that we can “think” our way into that. Or that is something that I can tell you from my experience, making it work for yours as well.
I believe it’s something we have to explore.
Something to experience.
Something to define for ourselves… and then confidently choose again and again, without hesitation.
I’m not talking about a dramatic reinvention.
… or checking out of our daily life and going completely off-grid for 6 months.
… and not a challenge to hustle harder in a ‘softer’ way.
Just something gentle.
Something real.
Something that nudges — a little bit each day — to live like your time, your energy, your needs, and your joy actually matter.
There’s a lot buzzing around me about this… there’s more to come.
For now, I’ll leave you with the question that’s guiding me:
If I have enough… what am I really chasing?
